If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you But make allowance for their doubting too,

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream–and not make dreams your master,

If you can think–and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breath a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with kings–nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;

If all men count with you, but none too much,

If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And–which is more–you’ll be a Man, my son! Rudyard Kipling

2 thoughts on “If

  1. I don’t judge those that like being in polygamous marriages. However, I do definitely judge those that think it is ok for a husband to just decide on his own without talking with his wife and getting her opinion and then letting her decide for herself what she wants to do. My experience is this. I have never experienced anything so degrading and gut wrenching as my husband doing having an affair and then trying to make me accept it. If you choose to believe in Allaeh or whom ever you worship, that is your business but for me, I want to choose for myself. My experience has been nothing but painful and I don’t see the love. The love is just another man making an excuse to have sex with multiple women and get away with it and especially if he entered a union with a woman under a different religion and belief. He begins to feel differently for what ever reason and then goes out and has an affair and then wants to make you feel like it is your fault and then brain wash you into accepting it. That girls is what happened to me and that girls is not love, it is control. It is a mans way of trying to validate what he did and then make you feel bad for it. What a load of crap. It would be different if he respected you as an individual and discussed how he was feeling and then allowed you to make a decision for yourself even if that meant he would loose you. But instead they try to make you believe what ever line of garb they want to feed you because they want their cake and eat it to. In other words they don’t want to loose you so they manipulate you into believing what they want. If that is what you believe then so be it. But I see it very different. I believe that when a man and a woman get married and take a vow before god, it is just that. I was raised with a different belief and I will not ever believe what a cheating man has to say.

    • Dearest Deceived
      I am very sorry for your pain. I as you cannot and will not condone infidility!!! Men who cheat are not men. And men who tries to get their wives to feel responsible for their heinous act of cheating or try to justify said acts are indeed mice not men, who need to the constant validation of their manhood and masculinity from stupid women who allow themselves to be used by these sad and pathetic men…oops sorry mice!!!

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